Loving Your Partner without Losing Yourself

Martha Baldwin Beveridge
MSSW, LCSW
11912 N. Pennsylvania, Suite D-3
Oklahoma City, OK 73120
Ph: 405-843-5258
Fx: 405-843-8362

New from Psychotherapist Martha Baldwin Beveridge

Loving Your Partner without
Losing Your Self

(Hunter House Publishing, 230 p.)

$14.95

French Language Version Now Available. Click Here.

Drawing a healthy line between intimacy and identity

Experts agree that the key to lasting relationships is good communication, but the crucial role that boundaries or "personal space" play in discussions, decision-making, fighting, making-up and all other aspects of couples’ lives is not always understood. This book fills an important need by explaining the importance of maintaining a sense of self apart from your partner.

With more than half of today's marriages ending in divorce, more and more couples are looking for ways to stay together.

Martha Baldwin Beveridge, an experienced relationship therapist, explains why romantic relationships often deteriorate from the heady intensity of early love into day-to-day struggles over boundary issues that tear couples apart. Her book gives readers practical, creative and unique strategies for transforming struggle into exploration and hostility into deeper intimacy. These include:

getting past the ABCs (Attacking, Blaming and Criticizing)
recognizing the symptoms of poor boundaries (clinging, jealousy, acting single, running away)
dealing with the smokescreen issues -- time, money and sex
Safe Dialogue -- a specific, positive way to communicate during disagreements
a seven-step process for healing the relationship

The insights from this book can start new relationships on the right track and get old ones back on track. Whether you want to save a relationship that's in trouble or recreate the closeness you felt when you first fell in love, this book is for you!

ACCOLADES

"Nothing is more important than honoring boundaries -- national, social, and personal. Not to do so will inevitably result in conflict. In this exceptional book, Martha Baldwin Beveridge defines the meaning of personal boundaries in intimate partnership, helps us understand how to recognize them, illustrates what happens when boundaries are violated, and takes the position that healthy boundaries are essential for intimacy between partners. I agree, absolutely. This book is a must-read for couples."
--	Harville Hendrix, PhD
	Author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide

"Loving Your Partner Without Losing Yourself is a gift of great value to all those couples who can’t seem to get it right. Martha’s writing is interesting, insightful, and helpful in the most practical way. Anyone in a relationship will benefit from what she has to say. As a marriage and family therapist, I will use the ideas, exercises, and personal stories in this book to help me do better by those who seek my help."
--	Marjorie R. Barlow, Ph.D.
	author of The Possible Woman

"Martha’s book gives people the tools to create a healthy marriage through awareness and the use of empowering processes which help to develop healthy boundaries. Through the use of her Safe Dialogue Process and heart focused centering, Martha moves couples from their turmoil to a place of mutual respect and eventually to the love that created their relationship in the first place. It is in this safe space that couples can address the boundary issues that plague us all. Her personal and professional success in teaching people how to create healthy boundaries is due to the fact that they are not only rooted and grounded in love but they are holistic in nature, for they strengthen body, mind, emotions and spirit. This book will help all who read it."
	--Ron Roth

"This brilliant and fertile book is key to creating a new partnership society. The potent and practical methods offered by Martha Beveridge can deepen and empower virtually every kind of relationship. The stories she tells, the exercises she offers are state of the art. Rarely has so keen and sensitive an analysis been applied to boundary issues. As a guide to transformational relationship in a time when all social forms are in transition and we must meet each other in new ways if we are to survive and grow, this book is simply the best there is."
--	Jean Houston, PhD
	author of A Mythic Life and A Passion for the Possible

Now Available:

Aimer L'Autre Sans En Perdre Son Identite'

(French language edition)

$19.95 (price includes shipping)