Pros And Cons Of Living With Lover
There has always been a lot of debate if it is proper for couples to live together before getting married or not.
Many people oppose this practice for religious reasons while others think it is practical that couples get to experience living together before they tie the knot.
The truth is it does not matter what other people say. The decision depends primarily on your individual situation and preferences.
You can decide what is best for you by studying about your circumstances and by considering the pros and cons of each option, which are discussed in detail below:
- You get a preview of your marriage
This is a lot more important than most people think. In today's society where divorce happens as often as weddings, it would be practical for couples to know if they are compatible to live together as a married couple even before they make a lifetime commitment. Even though you have known your beau for many years, living under the same roof is a different story. During this stage, you will get to know many things about him/her that you cannot find out while you're dating. This will give you a chance to change your mind before it is too late.
- You get use to your partner's attitude, behavior and habits
If your partner drives you crazy all the time but you love him/her so much that you make a vow not to mind his/her weird quirks, living together will give you ample time to get used to his/her personality even before you get married. There will be no more adjustment period when you make the matrimonial vow. Instead, you will breeze away as happy couple who have finally accepted that the other snores like a dragon or the other sneaks on eating ice cream in the wee hours of the morning.
- There is no more excitement in the concept of being newly weds
People who live together are understandably not as excited to get married as people who have never tried to cohabitate. If you are a hopeless romantic, this will be a big deal for you. If you have always dreamed of walking down the aisle to marry your love of your life, you might find the idea of losing the romance and excitement in wedding discouraging.
- Some people frown upon this practice
If you are the kind of person who values and takes seriously what other people say, particularly if those other people are your parents and family, you would probably want to do without living together with your partner. Many religions, which state that living together before marriage is a sin, do not allow this kind of practice.
In the end, it is not really up to other people to decide what is best for you and your partner. If you think that cohabitating will do good for your relationship then you must not let anything stop you from doing so.
However, if you are not comfortable with the idea of living together, then don't force yourself just because everyone else is doing it.
The important thing is that you and your partner agree on what to do.
If you cannot agree on this simple matter, how much more when it comes to more complicated issues when you are already married.