The "Right" Way to Meet Someone for the First Time
People go on blind dates for many reasons but no matter what, having fun should always be one of them. Here are simple things to keep in mind to ensure that you can have as much fun as possible.
Keep an open mind
If you cannot help forming expectations, make sure you expect that your first date can go one way or the other. If you feel disappointed at first, give your date a little time to warm as he/she might only be nervous, just like you.
Arrange a short date
Since you are meeting someone for the first time, it is possible that you will not hit it off right away. If that is the case, a short date is ideal because you have given yourselves the chance to get to know each other without being forced to spend an unnecessarily long time in each other's company.
If the date is going well, you can always extend your time together or arrange another date.
This sounds trite but putting your best foot forward just because you are meeting someone new is not easy nor is it honest. Of course, you should be polite and you need to observe proper decorum. However, do not pretend to do things just because you think it will impress your date. If you end up liking each other, you may have a hard time living up to the expectations.
To go or not to go Dutch
There is always the question of who will pay for the meal or the drinks. It is a nice gesture for men to offer to pay for the meal, if they have the means. Women may suggest that they pay half. Either way, dealing with this part in a straightforward manner is the only way to go.
Follow your intuition
A blind date should be like any first date. It should be about fun. If you are having a good time with the person, do not be stressed about how to keep the conversation going. Let things take its natural course. On the other hand, if you do not feel comfortable do not ignore the feeling. It may just be paranoia but it is still better to be safe than sorry.
Plan a graceful exit
The end of the date is one of the crucial times when you need to be as honest as you possibly can. If you truly enjoyed the company of your date, you can let him/her know that you are interested in seeing them for a second or a third time. You can be subtle by saying how you enjoyed your date or you can be straightforward and suggest another date.
On the other hand, if the date did not go too well it only fair to tell your date the truth. Be polite and explain why you think you should not see each other again. After all, it is better to be honest now than to give false hopes.
Going on a blind date can be stressful even before the date itself. However, if you know what to expect you may be confident enough to actually look forward to meeting a stranger.